Hell is the other, I've already mentioned that, and by that measure, I am hell to another.
There is no escaping that.
I had talked earlier about writing the other. In order to do justice to the other, more than empathy is required; in fact, one must become the other and bear the burden of the other's existence, with all that that entails in terms of emotions, aspirations, concerns, insecurities, etc.
But writing the other is the lesser hell, it seems, if only because it is a matter of choice and not of necessity; whereas when one is in the presence of the other, the concept takes on whole new dimension. Choice is not an issue anymore, one suddenly finds oneself confronted to the other, subject to reactions and - more emphatically - the being and existence of the other.
And there is no putting down the pen or shutting off one's thoughts here. It is a crash into each other in the full sense of the word - not a clash, which would imply some sort of excuse, intention or other variable, but a crash: it just happens.
Animals may fight to establish dominance, plants may choke each other in a restricted environment, but in the end, it all unemotionally plays towards attaining balance in the bigger design.
On the other hand, we, as sentient beings, are unable to let things take their natural course. For one, being conscious that we are conscious, we are also conscious that others are conscious (contrived though it may sound, it makes sense), giving rise to a number of inter-relational complications.
Furthermore, tools (read: technology or, more intricately so, wealth to buy technology) have given us the means to question the natural order. In the presence of others, the crash is unavoidable. At best, one can hope to get over it or, in more extreme cases, avoid others altogether.
This avoidance can take on many shapes, from total and utter submission to the other, to a full breakup or, more sadly, non-communication.
Like a poem poorly written
We are verses out of rhythm,
Couplets out of rhyme,
In syncopated time
Lost in the dangling conversation
And the superficial sighs,
Are the borders of our lives.
From "The Dangling Conversation", lyrics by Paul Simon